Tag Archives: pre marriage counseling

The anger iceberg.

The anger iceberg. (Gottman Institute) What you can see from the surface can be misleading as most of the iceberg is hidden below water. This is how anger works. Related Posts:Keep calm, anger can trigger a heart attack!Anger and heart problems, stonewalling and back pain.The 5 stages of grief and loss.Couples who share chores have…
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5 forms of abuse that are not physical.

Words do hurt: Five forms of abuse that aren’t physical. (Psych Central) Here are five forms of non-physical abuse commonly found in abusive relationships that you should always be on the lookout for, and ready to run from. Related Posts:PTSD from a psychologically abusive marriage.Signs you are verbally abused: Part I.Signs of emotional abuse.Neglect: The…
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Anger and heart problems, stonewalling and back pain.

Couples study ties anger to heart problems, stonewalling to back pain: Study suggests how you argue predicts health problems later in life. (Science Daily) If you rage with frustration during a marital spat, watch your blood pressure. If you keep a stiff upper lip, watch your back. Related Posts:Keep calm, anger can trigger a heart…
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Simple things every person deserves in a relationship.

25 simple things every person deserves in a relationship. (Thought Catalog) A solid foundation, so that when things inevitably get rocky at different points in your relationship, you two have something to fall back on. Related Posts:10 things your relationship needs to thrive.Things no one tells women about relationships in 20s.Surprising little things make a…
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PTSD from a psychologically abusive marriage.

You can get PTSD from a psychologically abusive marriage. (Your Tango) Abuse is slow and methodical and incessant, like a dripping kitchen faucet.   Related Posts:5 forms of abuse that are not physical.Changes in DSM-5: Racism can cause PTSD.‘I can’t breathe’: Race trauma and PTSD.Panic attack symptoms you should know.Signs your marriage is on the…
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How to deal with a depressed spouse.

Depression and marriage: How to deal with a depressed spouse. (Reader’s Digest) When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. This illness erodes emotional and sexual intimacy and suffuses a relationship with pessimism and resentment, anger and isolation. Related Posts:Depressed? Do what you love.8 hidden signs you might be depressed.Depressed or anxious? Check your…
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Romance in residency: Is dating even possible?

Romance in residency: Is dating even possible? (Medscape) For those fortunate enough to enter medical school or residency with a long-term romantic partner, the feeling of having someone in your corner can be a source of comfort when the going gets tough. The rest of us face a choice: Step out into the dating world…
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Depression: Barrier to communication in couples?

Depression: A barrier to communication in couples? (Science Daily) As well as pessimism, irritability, pain and exhaustion, depression is also proven to affect communication and ability to maintain relationships. A new article explores depression and relational uncertainty within couples and the causal effect on communication behaviors. Related Posts:4 communication patterns ruining your relationship.The strongest predictor…
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Response to threat silenced when reminded of being loved.

Brain’s response to threat silenced when we are reminded of being loved and cared for. (Science Daily) Being shown pictures of others being loved and cared for reduces the brain’s response to threat, new research has found. Related Posts:How to help a loved one with anorexia.Unexpected death of a loved one and psychiatric disorders.Low self-control…
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Things you should never do when angry.

10 things you should never do when you’re angry. (Huffington Post) Getting into a heated argument doesn’t just put you in a bad mood. It can also compromise your ability to perform everyday tasks — like driving — in ways that could be dangerous for you or the people around you. Related Posts:Things mentally strong…
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Life lessons on being selfish and needy.

5 life lessons on being selfish and needy. (Sustainable Self Love) One of the most common internal conflicts for the women I work with is knowing that always putting others before themselves is not working but that if they don’t put others first then that means they are selfish. And since these women are deeply…
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Loving someone with depression.

Loving someone with depression. (Huffington Post) I didn’t understand this at the time. I found myself wondering at times why Hubert was taking things so hard. He can get past this, I thought to myself, all he has to do is just try. Related Posts:What people do not tell you about loving an alcoholic.Feeling lonely in your…
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How retirement can hurt your marriage.

How retirement can hurt your marriage (and what you can do about it). (Huffington Post) Some couples are not prepared for the realities of being around their spouse more often, according to marriage experts. Related Posts:8 things experts say must do before tying the knot.Cheating on your spouse without realizing it.How to deal with a depressed…
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Signs of emotional abuse.

Signs of emotional abuse. (World of Psychology) Emotional abuse is elusive. Unlike physical abuse, the people doing it and receiving it may not even know it’s happening. Related Posts:12 signs of emotional infidelity.5 forms of abuse that are not physical.13 unavoidable signs you need couples counseling.Mental abuse of young athletes.Neglect: The quieter child abuse.Rx drug…
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Signs you are verbally abused: Part I.

Signs you are verbally abused: Part I. (Psych Central) Verbal abuse takes many forms: from loud rants to quiet comments; from obvious put-downs to not-so-obvious remarks that undermine the partner. What all the methods have in common is the need to control, to be superior, to avoid taking personal responsibility, and to mask or deny…
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